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peterp88 wrote on 02/18/2008:

I no longer watch this movie with sub-titles as my knowledge of the Frech language is returning. However, they speak in not formal French as I learned in school and being in Paris many times. The love between Lucas and Martin grows so that I feel part of their bonding. (I wished that I could have seen the FULL frontal of Jean-Michel Portal.) I saw half of him and never saw anything other than a butt shot of Marcial. Their kissing scenes were semi-erotic. It was good that Lucas broke up with Lise. She was a b#$%@.

BUY IT even if you do not understand the French language.

Je vous aime beaucoup Jean-Michel and Marcial.

just a reviewer wrote on 01/05/2007:

-------------((....watch for that first kiss........on the neck.......it's...))--------------((A)). CHAPTER I----Wherein we are introduced to a wondrous and heart-lifting love, a love being given us........by the French, who have long been renowned as masters of old-fashioned, romantic film-making, usually involving man and woman. But "usually" is not the case here, because what they instead bestow upon us is a tale of a 'different kind of love'----one that is showcased in a marvelous, but largely unheralded, 1997 film entitled: "The Man I Love." Surprisingly made for French TV, this is an Aids-related story of gay love being found while at the same time being lost. It literally "vibrates" with a style that's been pretty much unique to the French. Unique, that is, until the more recent arrival of such gay-themed, American-produced titles as "All Over the Guy" and, newer still, "Latter Days" and "Brokeback Mountain." In these productions, US filmmakers at last approach the French in 'realistically' depicting gay love.....and by 'love' I mean a couple's not only making a total commitment to one another but doing so openly (except for "Brokeback"). Embarrassingly, up until around the year, 2000, American-based directors and their lead male couples never quite appeared to be completely and truly comfortable and at ease in the gay love they were attempting to put across on the screen. But it is just such a high level of comfort and ease which was earlier captured in "The Man I Love," a motion picture in which you can actually visualize love emerging and growing.....something that would seem impossible to capture on film. ((B)). Meet now the two male leads with whom we have been gifted----((1)). MARCIAL DI FONZO BO, as 'Martin'--an Aids victim not yet giving up on life or finding love, who instantly recognizes that love the moment he sees a blond-god of a man appear, in of all places, on the front edge of a high-dive board. 'Martin' until then had nothing to continue living for, but with this new love in his life, the impending loss he faces becomes emotionally catastrophic......for us as well. How this story prepares him for that coming loss, and how we are allowed to watch his setting up a legacy which will buoy his new lover when the loss does occur, is a touching and heart stirring tale. ((2)). Most notably, though, we are presented the beautiful JEAN-MICHEL PORTAL, as blond 'Lucas' (that man on the board), in an uncanny characterization of one who, till now, has known only heterosexual love. Yet in this story he finds himself being faced with emotions of an entirely different nature.....emotions which he invites us in to watch as they "take him over." It is Portal's striking performance which allows the audience to actually see the growth and realization of this new, this different kind of love. Through his eyes, his facial expressions, and his body language, he does, indeed, present a love emerging (even though initially resisted) and growing. He begins his journey by almost reluctantly "giving up" his female lover/companion, as he commences "relating" more and more to 'Martin'. The movie viewer can virtually see his internal feelings for M. developing and "happening"......it's an experience akin to watching the "speeded-up-on-film" opening of a bud to blossom. Another way of saying this is, if you've heard the old expression about a person's "being bought out of their shell," then, here, with Portal's performance you can actually see someone undergoing such a transformation. ((C)). CHAPTER II----Wherein we are delightedly introduced to a Michelin Guide's Mother of all Mothers........and the French do even this best. Actress, Vittoria Scognamiglio's 'Rose' is a 3-Star wonder to behold. She is every gay boy's "dream-delight" of a parent; a someone who even rid herself of a homophobic husband so that 'Martin' could grow to be who he should be.......happily and without fear. There's no one 'Me're Rose' would not take on who might stand in the way of her beloved son's full enjoyment of his time left. ((D)). EPILOG / EPILOGUE----Wherein we bid a fond farewell to........our two amazing leading men: "Salut, Martin! // Salut, Lucas! Thank you for sharing your wonderful journey." ((E)). PS--This is, without doubt, an unusual film experience, and as one earlier reviewer said: "Repeated viewings only seem to make the story more meaningful." Now, please let me add: do not hesitate in obtaining it for your personal collection. (Oh, if you really like this one, you're gonna truly, truly love the French "Just A Question Of Love." ((F)).*******(Darling, je vous aime beaucoup /// Darling, I love you very much)*******

silvertron wrote on 02/14/2004:

This French film is a fairly sweet love story between an openly gay guy and an apparantly straight one. I did have mixed feelings about the occasional preachiness involving ACT UP, though. Also, I do think the cover artwork on the DVD is misleading; the characters as drawn look about 17, and the palm trees in the background make it seem as though the story takes place in L.A.